Fawning: A Lesser-Known Trauma Response

Psychologists commonly discuss the "fight, flight, or freeze" responses to trauma. However, a lesser-known but equally important trauma response is "fawning." The term, coined by trauma therapist Pete Walker, refers to a defensive behavior characterized by appeasement and compliance in threatening situations.

Understanding Fawning

Defining Fawning in a Traumatic Context

Fawning refers to a behavior pattern where an individual attempts to diffuse tension or avoid conflict by acquiescing to the needs and demands of others, often at the expense of their well-being. It's seen as a survival strategy, especially prevalent among people who have experienced long-term abuse, neglect, or trauma.

Recognizing Fawning Behavior

Fawning can manifest in various ways. Some common examples include excessive people-pleasing, difficulty saying 'no,' chronic over-apologizing, and a tendency to lose one's identity in relationships. These behaviors often stem from a subconscious desire to maintain safety and avoid perceived threats.

The Impact of the Fawning Response

The Psychological Implications

Long-term fawning behavior can lead to a number of psychological implications. It can contribute to low self-esteem, as individuals may prioritize others' needs over their own. It can also lead to feelings of resentment, anxiety, and depression, as individuals may feel unheard, unappreciated, or exploited.

Physical Health and Relationships

Fawning can have serious implications for an individual's physical health and relationships. Persistent stress and anxiety associated with this trauma response can lead to physical ailments, like sleep disorders, digestive issues, and weakened immunity. In terms of relationships, the lack of assertiveness and boundary setting can result in unhealthy dynamics and perpetuate cycles of abuse.

Dealing with the Fawning Response

Self-Awareness and Recognition

The first step in addressing the fawning response is to recognize it. Self-reflection and mindfulness practices can help individuals identify patterns of fawning behavior in their life. Understanding that this is a trauma response and not a personal failing is crucial to this process.

Therapeutic Interventions

Psychotherapy, particularly trauma-focused therapies, can be beneficial in addressing fawning behavior. Therapists can guide individuals in developing healthier coping mechanisms, improving self-esteem, and learning how to set boundaries.

The fawning response is a significant yet often overlooked aspect of trauma reaction. Understanding and addressing this response can be a key component of healing and recovery for many individuals.

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