Navigating the Exhaustion of Having a Friend with Borderline Personality Disorder

Maintaining a friendship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be rewarding and challenging. Their intense emotions, fear of abandonment, and tumultuous relationships can result in an exhausting experience. This article provides insights into managing exhaustion and maintaining a healthy relationship with a friend with BPD.


Understanding BPD in a Friend

BPD is a mental health disorder characterized by intense emotional responses, fear of abandonment, unstable self-image, impulsivity, and unstable relationships. These characteristics can cause a friendship to become emotionally taxing.


Emotional Intensity

People with BPD often experience intense emotions that can change rapidly. This emotional volatility can lead to exhausting cycles of highs and lows.


Fear of Abandonment

A person with BPD may have an intense fear of being abandoned or left alone, causing them to react dramatically to perceived slights or changes in the relationship.


Unstable Relationships

The unstable relationships often associated with BPD can lead to a cycle of idealization and devaluation, which can be emotionally exhausting for friends.


Coping Strategies: Managing Exhaustion and Maintaining the Friendship

Setting Boundaries

It's essential to establish healthy boundaries. This includes limiting the time spent together, the types of interactions, and the level of emotional involvement.


Practice Self-Care

Ensure you're taking care of your own emotional and physical health. This may involve exercise, a healthy diet, adequate sleep, and leisure activities that help you relax and recharge.


Seek Support

Consider joining a support group or seeking individual therapy. Speaking with others who have similar experiences can provide comfort, reduce feelings of isolation, and provide practical advice.


Communication is Key

Clear, consistent communication is crucial when maintaining a friendship with someone with BPD. Express your feelings honestly and assertively, and encourage your friend to do the same.


Education: Understand their Disorder

Learning more about BPD can help you understand your friend's behavior and reactions. This understanding can foster empathy and patience, mitigating some of the exhaustion.


Professional Help for Your Friend

Encourage your friend to seek professional help. Therapies like Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can provide tools for managing BPD symptoms.


Final Thoughts

Friendships with individuals with BPD can be exhausting, but they can also be incredibly rewarding. With understanding, clear communication, boundaries, and proper self-care, you can navigate the exhaustion and maintain a fulfilling friendship.

Grouport Offers BPD Group Supports Online & DBT Skills Group Online

Grouport Therapy offers online Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) group sessions to support individuals coping with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). This therapy approach utilizes mindfulness and acceptance to enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation, helping to reduce destructive behaviors and strengthen interpersonal connections. Our virtual group sessions instruct members on incorporating various psychotherapy techniques, such as DBT, into their everyday lives, enabling them to engage with others and express themselves more effectively.


Our qualified therapist conducts weekly group meetings remotely, allowing members to participate from the comfort of their own homes. As reported by participants, 70% witnessed significant progress within 8 weeks.


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