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Learn DBT Skills In A Group
Weekly sessions are available. Grouport offers therapist-led dialectical behavior therapy skills groups online. The first 12 weeks covers fundamental DBT skills.
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Narcissism is often misunderstood. It is commonly associated with arrogance, self-centeredness, and an inflated sense of self-importance. However, at its core, narcissism is a defense mechanism—a way of coping with feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, or unworthiness. While everyone may display narcissistic traits from time to time, for some, these traits can become ingrained patterns of behavior that affect relationships, work, and personal happiness.
If you have recognized narcissistic behaviors in yourself and are committed to change, you are already on the right path. It’s important to understand that change takes time, effort, and a willingness to confront uncomfortable truths about yourself. Here’s a guide on how to stop being a narcissist and embrace healthier, more authentic ways of interacting with the world.
The first step to overcoming narcissistic traits is acknowledging that you have them. This might sound simple, but for those who struggle with narcissism, it can be a difficult and even painful realization. Narcissism often stems from an inflated sense of self-importance, so admitting that your behavior is damaging to yourself and others can be challenging.
Take an honest look at your actions and how they affect those around you. Are you more focused on your own needs than those of others? Do you struggle to empathize with other people's feelings? Do you often manipulate situations to get what you want? Recognizing these patterns is a key step in the process of change.
Narcissism does not develop in a vacuum. It is often the result of early life experiences, such as neglect, criticism, or excessive praise. Understanding the root causes of your behavior can help you develop greater self-awareness and compassion for yourself.
For example, if you were constantly told you were special as a child, you might develop an inflated sense of self. Alternatively, if you were neglected or criticized, you may have developed narcissistic traits as a way to protect yourself from feelings of inadequacy.
By understanding where these behaviors stem from, you can start to reframe your view of yourself and others, learning that self-worth is not tied to external validation or perfection.
One of the hallmark traits of narcissism is a lack of empathy. Narcissists often find it difficult to understand or care about the emotions of others. Developing empathy requires practice and self-reflection, but it’s a crucial step in changing narcissistic behaviors.
To start developing empathy, try to put yourself in others’ shoes. When someone shares their feelings with you, listen attentively without trying to turn the conversation back to yourself. Acknowledge their emotions and validate their experience, even if you don’t fully understand or agree with it. Over time, this practice will help you develop a deeper connection with others.
Narcissists often rely on external validation to feel good about themselves. Whether it’s through compliments, attention, or material success, the need for constant validation can drive narcissistic behavior. Learning to stop seeking external validation and instead focus on intrinsic self-worth is an essential part of overcoming narcissism.
Start by cultivating self-compassion. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, and learn to accept your imperfections. Shift your focus from what others think of you to how you feel about yourself. Engage in activities that make you feel fulfilled, not because of the praise you might receive but because they bring you joy.
Narcissism often involves an exaggerated sense of superiority and entitlement. Practicing humility can help counteract these tendencies. Humility is not about belittling yourself or downplaying your achievements—it’s about recognizing that you are no better or worse than others.
Start by acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses. Take responsibility for your mistakes and learn from them. Share credit with others, and appreciate their contributions. Practicing humility involves embracing the idea that you don’t need to be perfect to be worthy of love and respect.
Narcissists often react defensively to criticism because it threatens their fragile self-esteem. If you want to stop being a narcissist, it’s essential to learn how to accept feedback graciously and without defensiveness. Instead of viewing criticism as a personal attack, try to see it as an opportunity for growth.
When you receive criticism, take a moment to reflect before reacting. Ask yourself if there’s truth to what the person is saying. Use it as a tool for self-improvement, not as an excuse to defend your ego. Accepting constructive feedback will help you become more self-aware and open to personal development.
Overcoming narcissism is not easy, and it may require professional help. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore the underlying causes of your narcissistic behavior and learn healthier coping mechanisms. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and psychodynamic therapy are often effective for treating narcissism and helping individuals build self-awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation.
A therapist can also help you work through past trauma or unresolved issues that may contribute to narcissistic tendencies. By working with a professional, you can gain the tools you need to make lasting changes in your behavior.
Breaking free from narcissistic behaviors can be challenging, and having a supportive network of people is crucial for growth. Surround yourself with individuals who encourage self-reflection, hold you accountable, and provide constructive feedback.
Be open to honest conversations with friends, family, or colleagues who can help you stay on track as you work to change your behavior. Healthy relationships require mutual respect and understanding, so seek out connections that foster these qualities.
Becoming less narcissistic is a journey that requires patience, self-awareness, and a commitment to personal growth. It’s not about erasing your personality or diminishing your value—it’s about embracing a more balanced, compassionate way of engaging with the world. By acknowledging the problem, developing empathy, seeking validation from within, and working with a therapist, you can cultivate healthier relationships and a deeper sense of self-worth.
Remember, change is possible, and every step you take toward personal growth is a step toward a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
Grouport Therapy provides online group therapy, individual therapy, couples therapy, family therapy, intensive outpatient program, teen therapy, and a DBT-Self Guided Program. All our sessions are therapist-led, held virtually, and meet over video chat at the same time each week. All our sessions are therapist-led and are held virtually and meet over video chat at the same time each week. For group therapy, we have groups on many topics including Dialectical Behavior Therapy "DBT", Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Anxiety & Depression, Trauma & PTSD, Anger Management, OCD, Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Relationship Issues, Divorce, Narcissistic Abuse, Self-Compassion, Grief & Loss, Parenting, Substance Abuse, Supporting A Loved one with BPD, among others. Each group is led by a licensed therapist that typically has over a decade of experience treating a wide range of specialties, and the group meets at the same time each week for an hour with the same members and therapist.
As reported by our members, 70% experienced significant progress within 8 weeks, including reduced anxiety & depression symptoms.
Our care coordinators can help assist you to craft the perfect treatment plan for you that's tailored to your needs. We provide speedy matches to quality care, and also provide the flexibility to switch your therapist or group at anytime ensuring that you're always meeting with the right therapist fit at a time that's convenient for your schedule. Whatever type of therapy you’re seeking, Grouport offers a range of options to suit your schedule and preferences. Explore our programs to find the support you need. If you need help finding the right type of therapy, schedule a free call with a care coordinator here.
We offer online group therapy, & each group has a personalized program of guidance, support, skills, and advice developed by our therapists.
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