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Learn DBT Skills In A Group
Weekly sessions are available. Grouport offers therapist-led dialectical behavior therapy skills groups online. The first 12 weeks covers fundamental DBT skills.
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Friendships can be rewarding and fulfilling, but individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) may present unique challenges. BPD is a mental health condition characterized by unstable emotions, relationships, and self-image. This instability can lead to a cyclical relationship pattern, often involving idealization, devaluation, and abandonment fears. By understanding the friendship cycle with BPD, individuals and their friends can better navigate these challenges and work towards fostering healthier, more stable relationships.
The Idealization phase often occurs at the beginning of a friendship when individuals with BPD become intensely attached to a new friend. They may idolize this person, seeing them as perfect or without flaws. This idealization can lead to rapid emotional bonding, with the individual with BPD placing the new friend on a pedestal and investing significant time and energy into the relationship.
During this phase, the person with BPD may be overly generous, eager to please, and highly attentive to their new friend's needs. While this level of attention and care can be initially flattering, it can also create unrealistic expectations and pressure within the friendship. Additionally, this intense emotional attachment can make it difficult for the person with BPD to maintain balance, as they may neglect other relationships or responsibilities in favor of the new friendship.
Both individuals in the friendship need to recognize the potential for idealization and work towards establishing healthy boundaries. Open communication about expectations and needs can help prevent the relationship from becoming unbalanced or overly dependent.
The Devaluation phase typically follows the Idealization phase and is characterized by a shift in the individual's perception of their friend with BPD. They may suddenly view their friend as flawed, disappointing, or untrustworthy, leading to feelings of betrayal or anger. This change in perception can be triggered by perceived slights or misunderstandings, causing the person with BPD to question the friendship's authenticity.
During this phase, BPD individuals may become critical, distant, or hostile toward their friends. They may struggle to see the positive aspects of the relationship and may focus solely on the perceived negative traits or actions. This behavior can be confusing and hurtful to the friend, as they may be unsure of what caused the sudden change in attitude.
Both parties must practice open communication and empathy to navigate the Devaluation phase. Individual with BPD may benefit from therapy, such as dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) or mentalization-based therapy (MBT), to help them understand and regulate their emotions. In contrast, their friend may seek support from loved ones or mental health professionals to cope with the emotional impact of the devaluation.
The Fear of Abandonment phase often arises as a response to the perceived threat of losing the friendship. Individuals with BPD may experience intense fears of rejection or abandonment, leading to clingy or needy behavior. They may constantly seek reassurance from their friend or become overly sensitive to signs of distance or disinterest.
During this phase, the individual with BPD may oscillate between pushing their friend away and desperately trying to maintain the relationship. This inconsistency can be emotionally draining for both parties and may strain the friendship. Sometimes, the fear of abandonment may become a self-fulfilling prophecy, as the person with BPD's behavior pushes their friend away.
To address the Fear of Abandonment phase, the individual with BPD must develop healthy coping strategies and self-soothing techniques. Therapy, such as DBT, can be beneficial in helping them manage their fears and regulate their emotions. The friend can also be supportive by providing reassurance and maintaining healthy boundaries while seeking support for themselves as needed.
Navigating the friendship cycle with Borderline Personality Disorder can be challenging for individuals with BPD and their friends. Open communication, empathy, and healthy boundaries are crucial in maintaining a supportive friendship for both parties. By understanding the phases of idealization, devaluation, and fear of abandonment, both parties can work together to foster healthier, more stable relationships.
By working together and prioritizing mental health, friendships with individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder can become strong, supportive, and lasting connections. Individuals with BPD can develop better emotional regulation and coping strategies with appropriate therapeutic interventions, such as dialectical behavior therapy or mentalization-based therapy. Friends can also seek support from mental health professionals or loved ones to help them understand and manage the unique challenges presented by a friendship with someone with BPD.
Grouport Therapy offers online Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) group sessions to support individuals coping with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). This therapy approach utilizes mindfulness and acceptance to enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation, helping to reduce destructive behaviors and strengthen interpersonal connections. Our virtual group sessions instruct members on incorporating various psychotherapy techniques, such as DBT, into their everyday lives, enabling them to engage with others and express themselves more effectively. You can learn more about the structure of our DBT Skills groups here.
Our qualified therapist conducts weekly group meetings remotely, allowing members to participate from the comfort of their own homes. As reported by participants, 70% witnessed significant progress within 8 weeks.
You don't need to confront these obstacles by yourself. Enroll in one of our groups today to embark on a path toward substantial, enduring transformation and renewed optimism. Become part of our community and collaborate towards a more promising future.
We also have groups for a variety of other topics including anger management, anxiety, depression, grief and loss, obsessive compulsive disorder, relationship issues, and trauma and PTSD, among many others. You can explore a wide range of group topics and options here. Sign up for one of our groups today and begin your journey towards meaningful, lasting change and learn to replace the behaviors and emotions that hinder your daily life and relationships.
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